Posted By  richards on April 9, 2014    
				
				  When Jewish tradition is steeped in gender roles, how does a  transgender Jewish person mark their own gender confirmation  procedures?
    A number of years ago a friend asked me to co-write a ritual to    mark his gender-transition to manhood. I say friend, but it    would be more accurate to call him queer family. I am also a    transgender Jew, and he is as close to me as my brothers are.    Even so, I was hesitant.  
    While there are several rabbis in my family, I am an academic    and not particularly skilled at creating ritual; however, I    grew up immersed in a strong, tight-knit Jewish community and    am currently finishing up my doctorate in Jewish studies. Out    of loyalty to him, I overcame my initial reluctance and    promised to try and write something.  
    At the time, transition rituals for transgender Jews were    scarce, although they are becoming more common.  
    Today there are rituals for many aspects of transition, from    taking hormones to changing names. My friend requested a ritual    specifically to precede his top surgery, a common procedure    undertaken by some transgender men and genderqueers  people    who dont identify as solely male or female  to flatten the    chest so that it appears more masculine. While there are    traditional Jewish blessings for surviving an ordeal (for which    surgery can certainly qualify), these did not seem to fit the    moment.  
    Before my top surgery, for example, I was certainly scared,    particularly since I had never undergone surgery. But as a    transgender Jew, surgery felt like my bar mitzvah: It    represented both a trial that I had to survive and a blessing    marking a new stage in my life. I knew I wanted to write a    ritual that could capture the complexities of what surgery    represented.  
    My friends only guidelines were that he wanted the ritual to    center on the mikveh and that he wanted my co-author and me to    be the witnesses to his immersion. Since the mikveh is a space    that is segregated by sex, we realized from the outset that we    were going to have to tackle Judaisms investment in dividing    the world by gender. In general, the broader Jewish community    does not always accept the variety of ways in which transgender    Jews self-identify. That means that transgender Jews,    particularly those of us who do not pass as male or female,    enter into a sex-segregated space with some trepidation.  
    My two friends and I represent three very different versions of    masculinity: I dont identify as male or female but I use male    pronouns, my transitioning friend identifies as a trans man and    my co-author is a non-transgender man. I was not sure that the    three of us would even be allowed together in a space defined    by the boundaries of sex.  
    After weeks of feeling stymied and feeling myself unable to    write a word, I turned to the Talmud for inspiration, focusing    on Berachot, the tractate on blessings, and decided to write my    section of the ritual using the Shehechiyanu prayer. The    Shehechiyanu is a blessing that praises God for helping us to    arrive at the present moment. It can be interpreted as a    blessing for being alive, but more generally it is used to mark    happy occasions, the first days of holidays or new experiences.  
    The Shehechiyanu was therefore not a particularly creative    choice, and nothing about the page of Talmud I selected marked    it as ripe for queer (or genderqueer) reinterpretation. And    yet, despite the fact that it is a common prayer, using the    Shehechiyanu to engage with the mikveh  a space segregated by    sex  felt both radical and appropriate. The Shehechiyanu    celebrates a moment of arrival but not necessarily a final    destination, which complements the idea of a gender transition    as a process without a clear-cut beginning or ending.  
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