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Intimacy and Judaism – jewishboston.com

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The MIT Hillel Jewish Learning Fellowship (JLF) is a 10-week experiential, conversational seminar for MIT students looking to deepen their understanding of Judaism on their own terms. Were interested in asking big questions. You know, the big stuff, like who am I? What communities am I a part of? What is worth committing myself to, and why? And we dont purport to have any of the big answerscertainly not for anyone else.

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Im kind of prudish. The last time I talked about sex or intimacy in mixed-gender company was with my husband and rabbi during our pre-wedding counseling sessions. Before that, the last time I was engaged in learning about Judaisms views on sex in the presence of men was during a late-night Shavuot lesson at Harvard Hillel about five years ago. From that evening I remembered that a man of independent means is supposed to have sex with his wife every day while sailors are only required to have sex with their wives once every six months (Talmud, Ketubot 61b). Wow, what a difference a job makes! I jest, but I understand. To me, this is one of Judaisms many examples of valuing equity over equality.

Traditional ketubot, marriage contracts, prescribe that a man is to please his wife sexually and provide for her materially. It is consequential that a sailor cannot both be home every evening to have sexual relations with his wife and perform the duties that allow him to care for his family in other ways. Yet he can shirk neither responsibility; he has two contracts he must fulfill: to his employer and to his beloved. Three, actually, as man and woman are commanded to be fruitful and multiply (Genesis 1:28). Halachically, to have a child would also require a suitable marriage. To both marry and become a parent are acts of creation that necessitate physical intimacy and can open pathways for spiritual intimacy as well.

To me, that men are obligated to procreate can be interpreted as a requirement for men to make themselves vulnerable and to offer them a kind of safety that such an intimacy offers as a reward. Throughout time and place, for reasons positive and negative, women have often been compelled into intimate relationships as a matter of security and bonding. And what is a more intimate experience than to have a child form in your own womb and to feed them from your own breast? It is also quite intimate to observe niddah (laws of ritual purity), which brings menstruating married women together for a monthly ritual of spiritual purity that requires the assistance of another to view your nakedness and declare you kosher. What a blessing to hear the repeated proclamation with each dip in the mikveh.

With so many rules that reinforce intimacy, it begs the question: What is the value of intimacy at all? Genesis 1:27 tells us, God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. While I used to interpret this as something akin to a blessing on our souls, some interpret our godliness as the legacy of lineage of Adam following the words of the Mishna Sanhedrin 4:5: Adam was created for the sake of peace among men, so that no one should say to his fellow, My father was greater than yours. In either case, this suggests our birthright includes an intimate relationship with God; God is directly in us and when we combine ourselves into one to create another we amplify and continue Gods presence in the world.

By recognizing and honoring the presence of the divine in each of us, we can all come closer to oneness, as a people, as part of humanity. Oxford defines intimacy as close familiarity or friendship; closeness. What could be more intimatethansharing divine kinship?

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Leah McSweeney Defends Judaism Conversion After Criticism From Fans Who Accused Of Following A Trend – Reality Tea

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The Real Housewives of New York returned to our TV screens this week, and a whole lot has changed this time around. Ramona Singer (with a new $80k smile) and Luann de Lesseps turned a new leaf and have become besties. Lu accidentally moved in across from her ex-husband Tom DAgostino.Eboni K. Williams made an amazing debut as the first Black cast member. Tinsley Mortimer and Dorinda Medley are out, at least for now. The only thing that stayed the same is Sonja Morgan still running around her townhouse with a tribe of interns.

Leah McSweeney has also undergone a pretty massive transformation since her breakout season. She upgraded her apartment and her boobs, stopped drinking and is in the process of converting to Judaism. Quite different from her first season filled with drunken pool parties and ravioli throwing.

Leah came right out of the gate in the premiere talking about her transformation. She was born Catholic but felt disconnected from religion during the pandemic. Leah said she felt a calling to convert to Judaism and is committing to following the rules, rituals and prayers that are involved.

According toPage Six,some RHONY fans criticized Leahs conversion, assuming she was following a fad. I hope she finds what shes looking for. But it kinda reminds me of when celebrities got into Kabbalah as a cool trend, someone wrote. Kabbalah, or Jewish mysticism, was a fad followed by several famous celebrities.

Leah hopped on her Instagram Story to set the record straight about her faith. Im not going to respond to every dumb thing people have to say regarding my conversion but this is so ignorant I must, she said. Converting and studying Kabbalah are very different. And to compare my conversion and refer to it as a trend is highly dumb AF and offensive. So thats on that, dont try to mess with someones religious beliefs.

It will be interesting to see the storyline surrounding Leahs conversion play out. She has a history of embracing her sexuality and wearing revealing outfits, which is a no-no for Orthodox Jews. She asked for forgiveness from her family members during the premiere.

But when will she ask Ramona for forgiveness for her constant digs at her age? Or Holla Heather Thomson, so claims Leah or the Queen B assaults her sometime this season? Leah has quite a few amends to make along this journey, so well have to wait and see. Maybe she is getting over some jealousy of the cast bonding with old and new faces instead of her.

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ISSUES OF FAITH: ‘Love thy neighbor’ a call to action – Peninsula Daily News

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The central tenet for Jewish behavior is the commandment to Love your neighbor as yourself found in the portion Kdoshim (Leviticus 19:1-20:27).

This portion is in the exact center of the Torah, reflecting its significance in Judaism.

Kdoshim means holy ones or sanctity, and contains what is called the Holiness Code which, along with the precept to love ones neighbor as oneself, gives us three important moral teachings: to leave some of the harvest for gleaning by the poor, to not withhold the wages of a laborer until the next day, and to not curse the deaf or put a stumbling block in the way of the blind. All three of these teachings show the importance of taking care of the most vulnerable among us, the poor, the workers and those with disabilities. This is how we can be holy.

For many rabbis and scholars, this portion is the high point of Leviticus. After learning the rules about what we must not do, we finally reach a positive directive we can embrace. Adonai spoke to Moses saying: Speak to the whole Israelite community and say to them, You shall be holy, for I, Adonai your God, am holy (Lev. 19:1-2).

This pronouncement was directed not only to the priests, but to the entire community of Israel, indicating we all have the capacity of holiness. This commandment is more difficult to follow than it seems because we are being told not just how to act, but how to be. And how we are to be is to be like God.

This is quite a daunting command. Unlike other religions where God is all powerful, omniscient and quite distant from humans, here we are to see God as approachable, with human qualities that we are to emulate.

The idea of being holy can have the expectation of withdrawing and removing oneself from society, but since God told Moses to speak to the whole Israelite nation, the holiness we seek is found within community, not separate from it.

Its easy to be holy and love everyone while staying separate, but it gets very messy when we live amongst others as Judaism demands.

Loving our neighbor as ourselves is great in principle. Until you have a neighbor that you find quite unlovable.

Following this commandment can mean giving up some of our desires and freedoms for the greater good.

American culture emphasizes freedom and individuality and often glorifies the loner.

However, this portion teaches that our strength is in community. When we are involved with others, though we have increased responsibilities, our relationships create a web that supports us. In a desire for radical freedom, we lose all the beauty and benefits from community.

A perfect example of this freedom and how it can impact everyone is seen in the refusal of some to get vaccinated against COVID-19.

The reasons given range from my freedom to Im healthy, so I dont need it.

Unfortunately, those rationales dont take into account the consequences this decision can have on our loved ones and the entire community.

This is where loving ones neighbor as oneself should be foremost in peoples minds.

Rabbi Akiva, a famous First Century rabbi, called love your neighbor as the great rule of the entire Torah, and the qualifying criterion for all the other commandments. The Holiness Code taught the world how to treat others, both friend and foe, the wealthy and poor, the strong and vulnerable.

Rabbi Gunther Plaut called Kdoshim the climatic chapter of Leviticus and the one most often read and quoted, calling it a remarkable summons to become holy by imitating God. Holiness comes from being just, humane and sensitive to the treatment of others. Not only is holy behavior outlined in this portion, but we are taught that the motive behind our behavior should be that we be holy like God a truly revolutionary concept.

The command to love your neighbor as yourself in Kdoshim is the oldest written version of this commandment, and Judaism led the way for all the Abrahamic religions in making this the focal point of the faith.

May we endeavor to stop focusing on ourselves, and make this commandment be the guiding light in our lives.

Not only can we be holy like God, but as a consequence, our loved ones and community will flourish in safety and health.

Kein yehi ratzon may it be Gods will. Shalom.

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Issues of Faith is a rotating column by five religious leaders on the North Olympic Peninsula. Suzanne DeBey is a lay leader of the Port Angeles Jewish community. Her email is [emailprotected] olympus.net.

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TikTok exec Michal Oshman: ‘We all have the chance to do something meaningful’ – The Times of Israel

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LONDON (Jewish News) Michal Oshmans CV is formidable. Shes head of company culture, diversity and inclusion at TikTok Europe, having been in charge of international leadership and team development at Facebook. She has held other impressive positions, trained hundreds of tech leaders and holds three degrees from prestigious universities.

So why, then, does Oshman, 45, describe herself as having been riddled with fear and anxiety?

The answer is revealed in her new book What Would You Do If You Werent Afraid? released on May 5.

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Elucidating Jewish spirituality for others is something Oshman is extremely passionate about; in fact, she sees it as her duty to play a role in helping people find themselves.

The book is about a discovery of an ancient wisdom that is not considered, at the moment, as a way to heal and help grow, Oshman explains. And its my story that represents, I think, millions of other people a story of dealing with something in your internal world and faking a different life in the external world. But its also a story of hope and solution.

Oshmans book is based on 10 key principles, the titles of which include finding your flame (neshama), cross your narrow bridge (gesher tzar meod), repair your companys culture (tikkun), and guide your children by the soul (chinuch), and include the Hebrew terms for soul, anxiety, repairing, and education.

The Israeli-born author, who now lives in London, wants the reader to step outside their comfort zone and discover who they have the potential to be. She invites them to answer searching questions, reminding them that If you change nothing, nothing will change.

Within each chapter, and in a down-to-earth and honest way, Oshman shares her own experiences such as a relationship breakup with the man she thought was the one, learning later in life that her subordinates had feared her while in the Israeli army, considering her a tough and unfeeling leader and how her self-esteem suffered after not winning what she thought were deserved promotions at work. She then reveals how she has come to understand the learning opportunities from each episode.

What Would You Do If You Werent Afraid? by Michal Oshman. (Courtesy)

She has absorbed the Chabad Hasidic teaching that, far from being perfect, life is actually full of struggle and that is okay; imperfection is a positive tool for growth.

I know what it feels like to be lost, to feel depressed. And I know what it feels like to feel shameful of all of that because on the surface everything looks fine, Oshman admits.

The mother of four grew up in a loving family in Tel Aviv but underwent years of psychotherapy to unpick the reasons for her extreme anxiety and fear.

Growing up with parents who were highly accomplished, Oshman was under the impression wrongly that their love for her was conditional on her success.

Her grandparents on both sides to whom she was very close were Holocaust survivors. One of her grandmothers lived next door and would wake up screaming that the Nazis had returned.

Oshmans parents were raised with a survival mindset. Additionally, through her fathers job as Israels top forensic pathologist, she was unwittingly exposed to inappropriate images too early: She saw her first dead body in the morgue aged seven.

Her fear was all-pervasive; Oshman always thought of the worst-case scenario. But she hid it, becoming a people-pleaser and never revealing to her parents her inner thoughts.

As an adult, Oshman would fill in her childrens school trip permission slips thinking she was signing their death warrant. What if something bad were to happen, she would wonder.

Therapy helped her up to a point, but she was asked to rake over the past in what she felt was a negative way. It was only when she discovered Jewish wisdom seven years ago that things slowly started to fall into place.

Oshman had become aware of the writings of Sigmund Freuds student, Dr. Viktor E Frankl.

Having lived through the horrors of Auschwitz and other camps, Frankl discovered that the prisoners who showed more of a will to survive were those who had found meaning in their lives.

TikTok exec Michal Oshman, author of What Would You Do If You Werent Afraid? (Courtesy/ Galia Verthime-Sherf)

His work, coupled with Oshmans fledgling interest in Hasidic teachings, made a profound impression on her.

Standing in reception on her first day at Facebook, she noticed a question on the wall: What would you do if you werent afraid? The words resonated loudly, as did the corporate motto of fail harder.

For a self-development book that discusses complex Jewish wisdom, it is extremely accessible and practical. She hopes it will strike a chord with non-Jews as well as Jews who see Judaism reduced to a set of rules.

I care deeply about building bridges between communities, Oshman says. I think its a universal book. You dont have to practice anything to experience these principles.

Similar to the message of 18th-century Rabbi Nachman of Breslov that people need to cross their personal or narrow bridges, this book is Oshmans own bridge.

Having to put herself out there to promote the book is, she says, daunting, as is being so open about her personal life, including wearing her Jewishness on her sleeve. Oshman now sees no contradiction between her professional and private lives, however, and cites as one of her inspirations Nicola Mendelsohn, Facebooks European vice president.

But Oshman describes herself as someone who will always call out the elephant in the room.

I do enjoy being in that uncomfortable, slightly raw place, and trying to navigate to something positive and productive, she says.

She believes we must question the reasons behind our choices. When I wake up, what gives me energy and what doesnt? Oshman asks. I also do things that I dont feel like doing, but if I do them most of the week, I need to be curious about that. We have an opportunity to do something meaningful.

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Lag BaOmer pilgrimage brings Orthodox Jews closer to eternity I experienced this spiritual bonding in years before the tragedy – The Conversation US

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The annual Lag BaOmer pilgrimage to Mount Meron in Israel attracts as many as half a million visitors every year. Because of COVID-19, this years event was less crowded, but even so, over 100,000 people were packed into a space with a capacity for perhaps 15,000. This overcrowding reportedly contributed to the recent tragedy, in which at least 45 people, mostly ultra-Orthodox Jews known as Haredim in Hebrew, died in a stampede.

This is by far the largest pilgrimage of Jews to what is believed to be the gravesite of the second-century Talmudic sage Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai.

I have participated twice in the pilgrimage once in 1994 as a newly observant Jew seeking religious meaning, and again in 2001 as a scholar of Jewish history. What fascinates me about this pilgrimage is the way it weaves together Jewish mysticism, folk practices and modern-day nationalism.

The Jewish practice of worshipping at the graves of holy men is at least a thousand years old. Many Jews particularly those whose ancestry comes from the Arab world, called Mizrahim or Sephardim believe that these saints can act as their advocates in the celestial court. They pray at their gravesites for everything from children to good health to a livelihood.

The pilgrimage to Meron, in the hills of the Galilee near Safed in the northern part of Israel, initially focused on the graves of other holy figures said to be buried there, particularly the early rabbinic sages Hillel and Shamai, whose debates on Jewish law helped lay the foundation for rabbinic Judaism 2,000 years ago.

In the aftermath of the Jewish expulsion from Spain in 1492, Safed grew into an important center of Jewish mysticism, known in Hebrew as Kabbalah. The most important and influential of these mystics was the 16th-century scholar Isaac Luria, whose innovative teachings transformed Judaism and Jewish history. Under his influence, the focus of the Meron pilgrimage shifted to Shimon, whose burial place was among the many such graves of ancient rabbis that Luria identified with supernatural guidance.

Shimon is by tradition credited with the composition of the Zohar, the core text of all subsequent Jewish mysticism, though scholars have determined it was actually composed in 13th-century Spain.

Sixteenth-century mystics, and the Jews who follow in their footsteps, are thus particularly interested in connecting to him. They are especially interested in doing so on the anniversary of his death, when the Zohar states he revealed the deepest secrets about God, and pilgrims expect to experience a taste of that revelation. Since at least the 18th century, that date has been accepted as Lag BaOmer.

The Hebrew name of the holiday Lag BaOmer literally reflects its date in the Jewish calendar, the 33rd day of the Omer, the ritual counting of 50 days from the holiday of Passover, commemorating the exodus from Egypt, to Shavuot, commemorating Gods revelation and giving of the Torah, the Jewish holy canon.

These seven weeks are traditionally days of mourning commemorating the death of 24,000 students of the great sage Rabbi Akiva in the second century by plague, seen as a punishment by God. Only five people survived, including Shimon. Haircuts, music, weddings and all celebrations are prohibited during that seven-week period.

On Lag BaOmer, the restrictions are lifted in accordance with the tradition that on this day the plague ended. Mystical tradition credits this to Shimons death, which was understood as having the power to eradicate the decree of the plague. According to that tradition, Shimon instructed that the day of passing be celebrated rather than mourned, and thus was born the celebration we know today.

In the 20th century, even before the founding of Israel, the Lag BaOmer pilgrimage to Meron grew into a mass event.

Pilgrims light bonfires symbolizing the light of Torah revealed by Shimon, or perhaps the literal fires that the Zohar states surrounded him at the moment of his death. In fact, they are lit not only at Meron, but throughout Israel and the world, although for some secular Zionists it evokes not Shimon but instead the Bar Kochba military rebellion against Rome that occurred around the same time.

Its earliest pilgrims were mostly Moroccan Jews who arrived in Israel intent on continuing their tradition of graveside visits to saints, convinced of the possibility of magical remedies and blessings through their holy intervention.

Many pilgrims celebrate the kabbalistic custom of giving a boy his first haircut, leaving behind the sidelocks, at 3 years of age. In recent years, ultra-Orthodox Jews of European ancestry especially Hasidim have increasingly dominated the site, although all sectors of Jewish society are represented there.

The pilgrimage is one of the only truly widespread expressions of folk religion in Judaism today. As anthropologist Edith Turner wrote in her classic essay on Meron, pilgrims come to Meron with deep faith in its power to bring blessings to them. This is a popular celebration, with a long history that shimmers through the events at various points.

The celebration is an intense, highly packed event that offers participants an ecstatic experience of communing with God in a collective of tens, even hundreds of thousands, of fellow Jews.

I can certainly attest to this effect. In 1994, at the start of my journey into Orthodox Judaism, I joined the Lag BaOmer pilgrimage to Meron. At that time, the festival hosted many Moroccan Jews, who camped outside the main grounds. Several among them had live animals ready to be slaughtered and eaten to celebrate their sons first haircuts. The Ashkenazic Hasidic Jews sects of Jews from Eastern Europe deeply influenced by Jewish mysticism and devoted to their leaders dominated the inner spaces of the compound.

Everywhere I walked, people offered me free drinks, convinced of the promise that it would bring blessings to their family. Meanwhile, gender-segregated crowds sang and danced in unison for hours into the night, creating a palpable sense of euphoria and connection to a collective eternity. Some of us pushed inside to approach the gravesite and prayed for blessings of success, while others pushed to reach closer to the bonfires.

There were several fires, each representing a different Jewish community, although by custom the main fire is lit by the head of the Boyan Hasidim, so called because their leaders originally lived in the city of Boyan in Ukraine. It was in the area of a different Hasidic group, known as Toldos Aharon, that the tragedy on April 30, 2021, occurred. This group can be seen dancing this year, just before the tragedy.

By the time I returned in 2001, I had become a full-fledged Hasid myself and was living in Betar Illit, a massive Haredi settlement south of Jerusalem. I recall far fewer Moroccan families camping in tents. But the number of Haredim, joined by Sephardim, modern Orthodox and even secular pilgrims seemed to have exploded, serving to enhance that sense of eternal community, of Jewish connection across time and space.

I have long since left that Hasidic world, for a variety of reasons. But I do not for a moment discount the very real experience of divinity and eternity enjoyed by Meron pilgrims, and their deep need to return to it each year.

The events leading up to the deadly stampede need to be viewed in context of Haredi society in Israel today about 12% of the population, but growing rapidly and the power wielded by its leaders. Israels first prime minister, David Ben Gurion, granted Haredim extensive autonomy in their education system, military deferments, welfare funding and more. Israels parliamentary system, which offers small political parties disproportionate power, has carefully protected and expanded that autonomy.

As a result, Haredi leaders have successfully fought enforcement of government oversight and safety regulations, from COVID-19 restrictions to the Meron festival. Aryeh Deri, the interior minister and leader of the Sephardic Shas party, said on the eve of Lag BaOmer: This is a holy day, and the largest gathering of Jews [each year]. Bad things, he promised, dont happen to Jews on religious pilgrimage: One should trust in Rabbi Shimon in times of distress.

Similar sentiments were voiced by Haredi leaders when they prematurely opened their schools last year, promising that Torah study would hold the plague at bay. Countless officials had warned that Meron was a disaster waiting to happen.

One hopes that this tragedy will lead Haredim and other Israelis to accept government oversight and limits at the site.

One should not for a moment, however, discount the vital need of members of this community to bond with one another and God at this place, any more than we would discount the legitimacy of other religious and secular communities finding it elsewhere.

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The Bible Says What? ‘Every Jew who ever lived stood together at the same event’ – Jewish News

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Just five chapters from the end of the Torah, we hear about the ceremony that took place just before the Israelites crossed over the Jordan into the Promised Land.

Moses says all are standing together to enter into the Jewish covenant with God, the basis of our religion. The terms of the covenant are the whole Torah and how we understand the practice and life that it mandates today.

In exchange, we are brought into eternal relationship with God asa special people.

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What I find so striking about this scene is how Moses addresses who is there with him: You stand this day all of you before God (Deut. 29:9).

He then lists all the people from the chiefs of the Israelite tribes to the people who do the most menial tasks of the time, water drawers and woodchoppers. Moses addresses men and women together, and children. He then goes even further: I make this covenant not with you alone, but both with those who are standing here with us this day before God and with those who are not with us here this day.

Judaism is a religion in which everyone is equal, no one is holier than thou. The picture painted is that we were all there at the same time in the same place to receive Torah and put its lessons into action.

Once the great first century rabbis Shammai and Hillel argued about who should be taught Torah. Shammai said we should teach Torah to worthy and qualified students only, but Hillel said to teach Torah to anyone, so they can learn and change their behaviour. Hillel won the argument and Judaism lives throughour generations today.

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Toxic leadership in the Jewish world goes beyond sexual misconduct. A reckoning must come. – Forward

Posted By on May 8, 2021

Were in the middle of yet another reckoning with abuse in the Jewish community.

The Forward reported last week that a former senior leader of the Reform movement had sexually assaulted members of his congregation and may have committed other acts of abuse and harassment and that the Reform movement may have kept details of this misconduct from the public.

Its likely that this news may be the first of many revelations across the Jewish world in the coming weeks and months, particularly as the Union for Reform Judaism launches an independent investigation into sexually inappropriate conduct that may have occurred under its watch.

These are critical conversations. We must talk about clergy who sexually abuse, and the people and institutions that cover for them.

But our grappling with the issues in Jewish sacred leadership cannot and must not end there.

Our conversations about healthy leadership, appropriate boundaries, appropriate modeling of spirituality and non-toxic theology cannot, and should not, begin and end with the question, Is this person a sexual abuser?

We also must talk about clergy who even outside any context of sexual abuse manipulate. Who gaslight. Who abuse the teacher-student power dynamic.

The clergy who blur emotionally necessary lines between themselves and those who rely on them for spiritual learning and guidance. This kind of fuzziness is a problem, regardless of whether or not its sexual.

The ones who let you in, just a little too much. Who dont just encourage you to open up, but maybe push a little too far. Who say things like, You can trust me! Youre really special, you know. I dont want to play it safe.

About the clergy who do that trick of staring into your eyes, deeply, to make you feel so seen and then tell you what they want you to do.

The clergy who are energy vampires.

The ones who lower boundaries around touch even if they never cross the line into legally-defined harassment or assault.

The ones who, even if they are not sexual abusers themselves, learned how to be clergy from abusers, have abusers as role models and pass on abusive approaches and tactics to their students.

The ones who will say things to you privately that they might deny having said in public.

The ones who offer what seems to be a narrative about spirituality, but is really a story about ego.

Whose Torah, sermons and teaching reflect a toxic worldview, one that doesnt honor congregants agency, selfhood and intuition.

The clergy who teach that spirituality is all about warm, pleasant feelings, who do not help you to do the hard, painful work that a true spiritual practice also demands. This is a concept known as spiritual bypassing defined concisely by Rabbi Rachel Barenblat as the wrongful use of spirituality to justify avoidance of things that are painful or uncomfortable, like anger or conflict or boundaries. Often, it comes hand-in-hand with an eliding of boundaries, a rush towards forgiveness without accountability, a denial of the need to speak difficult truths, a drive to pretend that situations are healthy or safe when, in fact, they may not be.

In many ways, its more difficult to talk about these behaviors, because they are less concrete than instances in which we can say, This person said or did such-and-such specific thing. And goodness knows getting to the place where we can name sexual abuse has not been simple work, and were not even fully there.

We are in no way done with reckoning with sexual abuse by clergy or the systemic overhaul now needed and long needed to address that abuse. Silence breakers are heroes.

And, at the same time, we must talk about these other clergy problems. I have seen all the above issues manifest in a single leader. Ive also seen many leaders who do one or two of them.

Those who are in lay leadership need to learn to identify toxic leadership styles among clergy, and to meaningfully address them. Even if the leaders, and the toxic styles they use, can be inspiring. Even if they make you feel good.

And those of us who are clergy need to be honest in facing the question of how we may have blurred these lines ourselves.

When our egos have gotten a little too inflated by the work of teaching Torah.

When our own unhealed wounds or emotional needs have slipped into the drivers seat, often without us even noticing.

When our burnout has prompted us to lean harder than we should on others to help pick up the slack.

What ideas have we absorbed about what holding space in ritual looks like? About how to touch peoples souls when preaching? About communicating compassion in pastoral counseling? About what our communal norms should be for creating connection?

Where did we learn those ways of doing and being? Who do those ideas serve? And who do they empower? What tools do we have to discern that?

We have barely begun to deal with the sexual predators in our midst; there are many more yet to be revealed, and many more still who will likely never be outed. We have not yet begun to identify the people who cause this other, non-sexual kind of boundary abuse, or even come up with a way to name it.

We must also ask these other questions, grapple with them, if we want our sacred spaces to be healthy, to truly serve God and our communities. This, too, is our work.

Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg is Scholar in Residence at the National Council of Jewish Women and the author of seven books. Her next book, on repentance and repair in the public square, is due out in 2022.

The views and opinions expressed in this article are the authors own and do not necessarily reflect those of the Forward.

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The power of pigs: tension and taboo in Haifa, Israel | OUPblog – OUPblog

Posted By on May 8, 2021

It might be an exaggeration to say a boar broke the internet. But when someone posted animage of wild boarsleeping on a mattress and surrounded by garbage from a recently-raided dumpster in Haifa, Israel in March, Twitter briefly erupted.

Not everyone is thrilled about Haifas suid inhabitants, which roam the city, eat trash, and sometimes attack people. In a recentarticle inTheNew York Times, Patrick Kingsley documents the uneasy relationship, not only between people and pigs, but also between the people who want the animals eliminated and those who welcome them. In a country plagued by bitter resentments, boar added one more thing to fight about.

One can appreciate the differences of opinion. Wild boar are magnificent animals, with thick brown hair, long snouts, and deep-set, intelligent eyes. They are also dangerous. Growing to 100kg or more, they can charge when cornered or startled. Worse, males grow razor-sharp tusks that turn their heads into massive spiked clubs.

But the power of pigs lies in their symbolic significance far more than their morphology.

In documenting the divisiveness surrounding boar, Kingsley curiously omits an important detail. The drama over the fate of Haifas boar plays out against a backdrop of taboo and religious law.

Pigs and wild boar are the taboo animalpar excellencein Judaism and Islam. They are banned repeatedly in both the Quran and the Torah. At the same time, the New Testament makes pork available to Christians as food. These contradictory positions on pigs have elicited intense reactions born out of disgust, tradition, and prejudice for millennia. Such emotions are fueled by and in turn feed conflicts. They exacerbate resentments and all too often lead to acts of humiliation and terror.

Take for example, the story told in II Maccabees 7. Around 167 BC, in the midst of a crackdown on Jewish traditions in the Seleucid empire, a Jewish woman and her sons are arrested and commanded to eat pork or die. They choose death. True or apocryphal, such steadfast adherence to Jewish law exemplifies the religious and nationalist zeal that would ultimately lead to the establishment of the Jewish Hasmonean Kingdom.

Pork-centered bigotry did not end with the Seleucids. The Romans, who conquered the Hasmoneans in 63 BC, widely mocked Jewish customs. A millennium and a half later, the Inquisition demanded Jews and Muslims not only to eat pork, but alsoenjoy it, in order to prove their conversion to Christianity. Today, there are more episodes than one can count of people terrorizing mosques, synagogues, and community centers with pig body parts or pork products.

Oppression is not always of pig-eaters against pig-abstainers. In 2009, amidst fears of the H1N1 Swine Flu outbreak, the Egyptian government, against the advice of the WHO, culled hundreds of thousands of pigs that belonged to Christian trash collectors, the Zabaleen. Pigs represented a substantial part of the Zabaleens livelihood; their loss threatened an already marginalized community with crippling poverty.

Haifa is often held up as exemplary of an integrated city in Israel. Arabic, Hebrew, Amharic, and Russian are spoken on its streets. Over a third of the roughly 20,000 students at theUniversity of Haifaare Arab-Israeli. Compared to more segregated cities like Jerusalem, Haifa looks like a model of what Israel could be.

Nevertheless, several social fault lines run through the city. Jews and Arabs may both call the city home, but the relationship between them is tense andvery unequal. Discrimination and mutual avoidance are commonplace. The (mostly Jewish) rich and famous live in the Denia neighborhood on the slopes of Mt. Carmel, while Arab neighborhoods such as al-Khalisa experience poverty and high crime rates.

Fault lines run through the Jewish communities as well. Haifas Russian-Israelis and Ethiopian-Israelis (Beta Israel), who arrived via state-supportedaliyaprograms, are concentrated in neighborhoods such as Kiryat Haim that suffer from crime and neglect. Both Jewish groups facediscrimination and police harassment, epitomized by the 2019shooting of Solomon Tekain Kiryat Haim and the nation-wide protests that followed.

The growing Haredim (ultra-Orthodox) community is (self-)segregated from the more secular Jewish communities. The two broad sections of the Jewish population have long disagreed over the appropriate political and cultural trajectory for Israel, with the Haredim more recently showing themselves to be ardent supporters of Benjamin Netanyahus right-wing government. As Haredim move in larger numbers into Haifa neighborhoods such as Naveh Shaanan,tensions have followed.

As in so much of the developed world, economic inequality is high in Israel, which sports a Gini coefficient around0.39, similar to the United States (0.41). Neoliberal policies within the Start-Up Nation have hollowed out all semblance of solidarity. An upwardly-mobile and cosmopolitan class fattens their pockets while the working class, often separated from the upper class not only by income but also by ethnic background, is beset by high costs of living and frustrated ambitions.

For now, the wild boar are equal-opportunity offenders in Haifa. Theyinvade rich and poor neighborhoods alike. One can hope that the need to address the problems posed by wild boar will bring together people from different sectors of Haifa society. Perhaps the search for a solution endorsed by multiple stakeholders will help build trust among various groups. Or perhaps the growing disagreements about the pigs will fall along existing fault lines, aggravating the existing animosities and becoming one more element in Israels multi-front culture war.

The lesson of pigs over the past two and half millennia is more than just to demonstrate that in highly unequal societies, those with power exploit, murder, and humiliate those without. Or that different ethnic and religious groups are wont to disagree, especially when wealth is not equally shared. It is that pigs, because of their unique history in the Middle East and the contradictory position of being a source of food for some and pollution for others, possess an almost uncanny ability to insert themselves into existing social conflicts. They often become the focus of conflict, or evenmetonymicof social tension. It is this recurring role that has given the pig taboo its unique power in Judaism and Islam. If history is any indication, the power of pigs will transform what is now an ecological debate about wild animals in Haifa into a conflict that further separates people within an already divided society.

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Ban mock Jewish star at COVID protests, German anti-Semitism czar urges – DW (English)

Posted By on May 8, 2021

Germany's anti-Semitism commissioner Felix Klein urged authorities on Friday to stop protesters from using a mock yellow Star of David badge forced on Jews during World War II.

Anti-lockdown protesters have been seen wearing the yellow badge in Germany in opposition to government plans to offer more freedoms to those who get vaccinated against COVID-19.

Demonstrators changed the label inscription on the yellow badge to "unvaccinated," claiming Germany's coronavirus policy draws comparisons to the persecution of Jews during the war.

Klein warned that such actions relativize the Holocaust. During World War II, Germany made wearing the Star of David badge obligatory throughout territories they occupied. Jews found without one faced a fine, prison or death.

Jews wearing Star of David badges in the Lodz Ghetto in Nazi-occupied Poland

"If people pin so-called Jewish stars on themselves in demonstrations, thereby drawing comparisons that relativize the Holocaust, then the means provided by law should be applied against them," Klein told Germany's Tagesspiegel newspaper in an interview.

The commissioner called on cities to follow Munich's example. The southern German city has already made the wearing of the star during protests illegal.

Klein also noted that anti-Semitic offenses in Germany surged to a new high of 2,300 last year.

He said the figures were frightening but unsurprising, as in times of crisis people were more open to "irrational explanations, including anti-Semitic stereotypes" from all ends of the political spectrum ranging from the far right, conspiracy theorists as well as by the left.

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Reviews of new Van Morrison album: It’s as bad as you’ve heard – Los Angeles Times

Posted By on May 8, 2021

Van Morrison has a new album out, and the initial reaction is pretty bad. And thats not even including allegations of anti-Semitism made against him over a song called They Own the Media.

Since the pandemic hit, the Brown Eyed Girl singer-songwriter has been railing against lockdowns aimed at slowing the spread of COVID-19, putting out a handful of protest songs that courted plenty of controversy.

But Latest Record Project, Vol. 1, a new two-hour, 28-track double album, doesnt include those tunes. Instead, it veers off in a conspiratorially cranky direction with songs titled The Long Con, Big Lie, Why Are You on Facebook and Stop Bitching. Do Something.

The Guardian (depressing rants by tinfoil milliner) and Rolling Stone (a delightfully terrible study in casual grievance) have already savaged it.

Pitchfork actually liked it a little, in an extremely qualified way, calling it a risible and intermittently lovely 28-song collection which, in its bonkers way, brings Morrisons tumultuous career full circle.

To be a genius is not the same as being a sophisticated political thinker, as we keep learning again and again, to the point of exhaustion, Elizabeth Nelson writes for Pitchfork. In his press materials for the LP, Van hilariously valorizes himself as the only living protest singer, by which it appears he means he is the only gazillionaire rock star to be a pandemic denier besides Eric Clapton.

Noting that Morrison has gone conspiratorial in the past, the Guardian proclaims that on Latest Record Project Volume 1, the sheeple are truly awoken.

Its MI5 this and mind-control that, secret meetings in the forest, mainstream media lies and Kool Aid being drunk by the gallon, the Guardians Alexis Petridis writes.

On Western Man, theres some troubling alt-right-y stuff about how the wests rewards have been stolen by foreigners unknown and we should be prepared to fight. And hes convinced that the shadowy forces of the establishment are engaged in efforts to silence him.

Van Morrisons new double album is titled Latest Record Project, Vol. 1.

(Evan Agostini / Associated Press)

Worst of all, Petridis says, The tone isnt anything as stirring or exciting as anger, just endless peevish discontent and sneering dismissal.

Rolling Stones Jonathan Bernstein says, Morrisons repetition sounds less like the trance-like mysticism of a Caledonia poet and more like a furious customer demanding a refund. He does laud the song Dupers Delight, saying it shows Morrison at his best: letting his audience in on his own profound process of self-inquiry.

Bernstein sums up the album as a sometimes amusing, sometimes frustrating, sparsely thrilling, and largely unlistenable collection of rants and riffs.

And about They Own the Media? While the song doesnt explicitly name Jewish people as its They, it does elevate an anti-Semitic trope that has recently been revived in an even more malicious form by QAnon followers.

Sample lyrics: They control the narrative, they perpetuate the myth / Keep on telling you lies, tell you ignorance is bliss / Believe it all and youll never get the truth / Never get wise, wise through their lies.

Well, tweeted British writer-presenter Matthew Sweet, the new Van Morrison album will certainly satisfy anyone whos wondered what the Protocols would sound like with a sax accompaniment.

Read on for some comments from fans, some apparently former fans and other denizens of social media.

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