Jewish American Heritage Month

Posted By richards on December 16, 2014

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What women would giveto be lusted after today.

Women are not looking just for love in a marriage. They are primarily looking for lust. A woman wants to be wanted, needs to be needed, desires to be desired. A woman does not go into marriage principally to be loved. She goes into marriage to be lusted after, to feel that theres a man who has a magnetic attraction for her. Its an easy point to prove.

If a woman wanted primarily to be loved why would she ever leave the comfort of the parental home? No ones ever going to love her more than her parents. Her parents are never going to divorce her. Her parents arent going to cheat on her. Her parents are going to love her unconditionally. She doesnt have to dress up for them; she doesnt have to impress them. If you want to be loved, you stay at home.

So why is it that by the time shes a teenager her parents have to threaten her to be at home? Whey does she trade in theunconditionallove of her parents for the veryconditionallove of a man?

When her parents tell her shes the prettiest girl in her class she just rolls her eyes. Theyre just saying that because theyre her parents. They have a genetic AK-47 to their heads making them love her. There is no choice in the matter and therefore her parents love for her cant make her feel special.

But when a man says that to a woman it must mean that shes special, shes unique. Her parents can give her love but they cant give her what shereallywants, which is to be chosen.

Every woman wants to be chosen. Our parents can give us the gift of love but not the gift of chosenness.

In the Hebrew language there is a specific word for husband(baal), but no specific word for wife. The word used to identify wife (ishah) is the exact same as the word woman. A wife is in essence a woman. A woman is always a woman, no matter who she is and what role she plays in life. She can never be fully possessed, even in marriage, which, ironically, is a good thing. It means that no husband can ever take his wife for granted. Even after you marry her she never fully becomes your wife. She remains a woman who can only be won over not by the commitment of the marital institution but through the daily solicitation of emotional devotion and affection. Women are drawn to men who desire them.

The point is best illustrated by the story of Bruriah, wife of the Hebrew sage Rabbi Meir. A daughter of the respected martyred sage Rabbi Hananiah ben Teradion, Bruriah is one of the few women singled out in the Talmud as being herself a sage. She was an intellectual and a paragon of faith who proved her mettle in soothing her husbands grief with complete acceptance of the will of the Almighty when their two sons suddenly died in tragic circumstances.

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Women want to be chosen

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